Margot Holloman, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist, Online Therapy for Overwhelmed Moms (and mothers-to-be) in any and every stage of motherhood. Located in Cary, NC. Authorized to Practice Online in Most US States through Psypact. See Footer for More Information.
HOW DO YOU WANT YOUR FAMILY TO DESCRIBE YOU AS A MOTHER?
GENTLE, PLAYFUL, PATIENT, WISE, DEDICATED, OR FUN?
WHAT IF YOU CAN BE WHAT YOU ALWAYS WANTED?
I specialize in Mothers who are anxious and Stressed, and/or down and depressed.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You want to be a mom, but you didn’t know it is such a hard road to get there or YOU ARE a new mother and it is not at all what you expected.
- You have toddlers or preschoolers and some days YOU really need the time-out.
- You have older children and/or teens and you feel like you are on a hamster wheel. You never wanted to be a witch but you feel like one. On top of that, you feel overworked, underpaid, and unappreciated.
- Your kids are headed toward college or moving out on their own. You are headed toward an empty nest and you are having trouble remembering who you are and what YOU want from life.
- You have adult children and they are finding careers and partners (or not) and it feels like a whole new phase of walking on eggshells and worrying about them.
- You feel lonely and you need to reconnect with others, maybe your partner, your children, and your friends. In the whirlwind of motherhood you have forgotten about yourself and how to take care of you.
Are you ready to live in a calm, Loving home with family members who support and appreciate each other? You deserve all of this and more.
I specialize in working with women at all stages of motherhood. From making the decision to have children, pregnancy and postpartum issues, struggling to manage toddlers, preschoolers, school-aged, middle or high schoolers, to mothers who are facing an empty nest and trying to decide what is next.
I work with mothers who feel overwhelmed and are struggling with anxiety and self-doubt. Mothers who are trying to balance the needs of their family and yet still find something left for themselves. Mothers who are devoted to their families, but need help finding their confidence so they can feel joy and fulfillment while raising their children. Mothers who yearn to feel capable and confident and strive to be the best mother they can be.
I Have Spent 25 years Helping Women at Every Age and Stage of Motherhood Work through these Issues Successfully.
You Can Trust Me to Help
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Together we will work to discover what you need to feel better. You can depend on me to know how to get there. I will help you regain your confidence and find your way to greater peace and happiness. I am dedicated to these issues because they were the issues most important to me after being the daughter of a mother with mental illness. These issues continue to be the most important in my life after years of personal healing and three decades of motherhood. I will help you put the self-help books you have read and the podcasts you have listened to into action. At first, you will likely need practical solutions, problem-solving, and support. It is essential that you find a therapist who understands you so you can stop feeling like you are trying to do everything all alone. Next, we will work on your self-esteem and, if needed, work on unresolved feelings from childhood or previous relationships. Together, we will work on making long-lasting changes both in yourself and your relationships. I can help you determine what is your responsibility and more importantly, what is not. |
With Me, You Will Be Getting A Unique Combination Of Many Years Of Education, Professional Experience, And Personal Lived Experience.My passion for mothers was born out of the stress of walking the floor with my first baby while she cried for hours. I felt so unsure if I could be both a good mother and a good Psychologist after a childhood filled with love but also rage and neglect. Clients often tell me I am the first “therapist they could really connect with.” I want to create a therapy experience where you reach your goals in a way that YOU feel comfortable with. Often a big part of therapy is getting comfortable with change. Change is hard, but having someone else there with you when you are trying to do something new and hard gives you the confidence you need and makes all the difference. My approach will be tailored to your needs and your preferences. Do you like structure and homework? Then I will give you homework. Do you need time and space to talk and figure out what you are feeling? That is my bread and butter. Do you need relationship or emotional coping skills, or do you need the motivation and confidence to use the skills you already have?
By the end of your time with me, you will have a newfound confidence you know what you are doing and you are finally on the right path. |
Therapy Specialties
Journey to Motherhood
Prepregnancy Decisions, Pregnancy, Infertility, and Miscarriage
New Moms and New Feelings
Postpartum Depression and Postpartum Anxiety
The Middle Years of Motherhood
Parenting Challenges and Preventing Burnout
Seasoned Moms
College Age and Adult-Children, Caring For Aging Parents, Grieving the Death of A Parent
Like Flowers, We All are Our Most Beautiful When We Grow and Flourish. When We Start Changing in Therapy, We are Beginning to Bloom.
I have always loved the expression “Bloom Where You are Planted”. It seems to suggest that we should all use what we have been given, not denying our weaknesses, circumstances, or challenges, but acknowledging them and using our strengths and the adversity we have experienced to make the most out of what we have and to grow and bloom as God or nature intended.
As we grow, we can learn how to love and live better. No matter what our age, when we make the commitment to focus on ourselves and how we can thrive then we are Beginning to Bloom.
Education and Experience Matters
I have my Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and have been specializing in pregnancy and postpartum issues for over 25 years. Over the years, I have worked with children, adolescents, couples, and families. I have experience with all kinds of families and all kinds of family issues including depression, anxiety, and ADHD in children and adults. Now I love specializing in “family-oriented” individual therapy for Women.
Your Relationship With Your Therapist Matters
I work with women who are looking for an effective therapist who is warm, funny, and understanding, but most importantly has been there herself. I provide a safe supportive atmosphere where clients often tell me “I never felt comfortable telling anyone about this before even in therapy.”
Education and Licensure
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B.A. in Psychology from the University of Cincinnati. Received the Arthur G. Bills Award for Excellence in Undergraduate Research.
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Attended the School Psychology Doctoral program at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and then voluntarily transferred to UNC-G for the Clinical Psychology Doctoral Program.
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Graduated with a PhD from the Clinical Psychology program at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro.
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Licensed Psychologist, APIT (Association for the Interjurisdictional Practice of Therapy).
Training
- Practicum at the Davidson County Mental Health
- Internship at the Veterans Administration (VA) Durham, NC.
- Practicum at the Baptist Hospital, Winston Salem, North Carolina.
- Private Practice in Apex, NC, Fayetteville, NC, and Raleigh, NC
Professional Associations
North Carolina Psychological Association
American Psychological Association.
The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences
My Therapy Methods
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
| Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is an action-oriented approach. In ACT, clients learn how to stop avoiding, denying, and struggling with their inner emotions. They learn how to recognize and follow what is important to them and to honor and accept their feelings. Most importantly, they learn how to stop allowing their feelings to keep them from moving forward in their lives. With this understanding, clients begin to accept their hardships and commit to making necessary changes in their behavior, regardless of what is going on in their lives and how they feel about it. |
Interpersonal Therapy (IPT)
Interpersonal therapy approaches use the relationship between the therapist and the client to help the client make deep, long-lasting changes in the way they see themselves, see others, and see the world. It focuses on changing relationship patterns that are not working, as well as relationship difficulties that contribute to depression and anxiety symptoms.
CBT/DBT, Positive Psychology, Mindfulness, and Self-Compassion Therapy (MBSCT)
Cognitive-behavioral therapy(CBT) targets thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that keep a client from reaching their desired goals and are causing the client distress.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) helps clients learn to balance self-acceptance and the need to change. It promotes learning new skills to manage emotions and to be more effective in relationships and in life.
I also really like to use positive psychology techniques, narrative approaches, and to teach self-compassion in therapy.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to therapy that believes that we all have parts of ourselves that serve different but very important functions. Many times these "parts" were developed during childhood while we tried to cope with painful experiences. These different parts are all good but sometimes accidentally cause more problems for us despite the fact that they are trying to help. If we learn how to understand our parts, then we can also learn how to help all of these parts of ourselves work together in a way that truly does help us to create the life we want.
Short-Term and Long-Term Therapy
If you want to keep therapy brief, we can use a more short-term approach that is focused on solutions. You can also return to therapy if new problems arise. If you want to go deeper, I will use an approach designed to create deeper, long-lasting change. This is something we will talk about together in your first few sessions.