Therapy for ADHD in Cary, NC.
Therapy for ADHd Moms and Empowerment for Moms Raising Kids with ADHD
Find Calm and Confidence in Yourself and Your Child's Future
Are you tired, overwhelmed and pushing to get through each day?
As an ADHD Mother, Do you feel like you are on a treadmill with no relief?
It feels like life just shouldn’t be this hard. It seems like it is easier for other mothers. There are so many things to do and so much to balance between your job, being a mother, a daughter, a wife, and if you are lucky, a friend. You aren’t sure where to start to feel like you have some control. You work on one thing and before you can finish something else needs your attention. Sometimes it feels like you are treading water, other times you feel like you are getting pulled under. You are spread too thin and you don’t feel like you are doing a good job anywhere. You worry about what is wrong and why you can’t get on top of things. You avoid people who want things from you and who seem to be disappointed in you. You are often irritable and get angry too easily. You know this, but it is so hard to keep these feelings from bubbling over. There are times you feel better and you think you are making progress, just to suddenly feel like you are back to the starting point. Things feel like a mess. Your house is a mess, your desk is a mess, and sometimes it feels like your kids are a mess. You are worried that maybe YOU are the mess. You may have learned how to manage your ADHD symptoms successfully at other times in your life; but, now here they are again leaving you feeling overwhelmed, inadequate, and ashamed. When you have ADHD, you often have to learn new strategies to manage your symptoms each time you take on a significant new challenge. AND BEING A MOTHER IS ONE OF LIFE’S BIGGEST CHALLENGES. A new mother once told me she felt like someone had thrown a deck of cards up in the air and she was just running around frantically trying to catch them. Adjusting to all of the new tasks, new routines, new pressures, and new issues has you feeling like you are on a hamster wheel, and not only are you not getting anywhere but you are exhausted and you don’t know how to get back to feeling in control. With help, you CAN manage your ADHD symptoms and also feel like a Great Mom. |
You love your kids, but this is HARD. And if that isn’t enough, you may have ADHD yourself, and be parenting an ADHD child. And though You may be trying to parent an ADHD child, you aren’t sure how to help them because you don’t know how to help yourself. You are worried your partner blames you or they are losing respect for you. Others don’t seem to understand and often seem to be saying you just need to buck up. You have tried to buck up, you do buck up, but then you feel like you are just trying to get through the day. |
You Can Live Your Life With Confidence
With therapy, you can feel like you are in control again. You can feel sure of yourself. Best of all, you can help your children feel confident. You can feel like you are doing a good job as a partner and mother and go out and get the things YOU want in your life.
No more feeling isolated and alone. I can help you feel confident and connected in your relationships and build those relationships until they are satisfying and meaningful.
You will feel like you understand yourself and feel good about who you are and how capable you are. I will help you to discover your strengths and manage your weaknesses so they don’t interfere with what you want to accomplish in life.
You will be sure about your path and will enjoy the journey. Best of all, when you meet obstacles and feel discouraged, you can learn how to overcome them and get right back on track.
Feel Sure of Yourself, Your Future, and Your Children’s Future
Therapy for ADHD Mothers is my specialty.
In therapy, you will learn how to resolve these issues so you feel good again, feeling empowered, and back in control of your life.
You will find your voice and learn how to set boundaries.
You will be able to grieve losses having an impact on you day to day.
Motherhood often brings up painful issues from our childhood and our unresolved issues with our parents. If you didn’t have a healthy mother who was around to mother you well, you are likely to feel less prepared to become a Mom.
Therapy with me will give you the safe supportive space you need to work on these issues so they don’t prevent you from becoming the mother you always wanted to be.
Through CBT, You will learn how to successfully manage your ADHD, but what about all of the other feelings?
My approach is comprehensive and tailored to your needs. I can help you feel like your best self and proud of who you are. You can feel resilient and like you can overcome obstacles without getting stuck in self-pity or depression.
I use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Interpersonal approaches to help you improve all of the important relationships in your life. I know how important it is to feel like you are a good mom, a good partner, a good friend, and a good person. See my About Dr. Holloman page for more about my approach.
Therapy can help you heal childhood experiences standing in the way of being the mother and the woman you want to be. To do this, your therapist needs an approach that focuses on healing those childhood wounds that keep you from feeling good about yourself.
Because of the importance of having good meaningful, satisfying relationships, we will focus on helping you develop good relationships that are both nurturing and fulfilling. I will help you feel like you can stay away from or leave relationships that are hurting rather than feeding you.
Therapy for ADHD Mothers Will Help You:
Understand Neurodiversity, Why it is Important, and How to Strengthen your Executive Functions.
Learn how to successfully manage your ADHD symptoms so they no longer get in your way.
Feel confident about how to mother your children, whether they are neurotypical, have ADHD, anxiety, or other challenges.
Increase your knowledge of child and adolescent development and modern effective discipline approaches so you feel confident and skilled at mothering, period.
Prioritize yourself and your needs so you have the enthusiasm and energy to take care of both yourself and your family.
Learn how to be true to yourself and what you want without self-doubt and comparing yourself to others.
Improve your work-life balance so that one area of your life isn’t succeeding to the detriment of the other area(s). And so you don’t constantly feel like you are failing or treading water in both.
Prevent mom and career burnout because you are not taking care of yourself at work or at home.
Navigating daily life can be hard, especially when you’re feeling stuck. I will help you learn skills for managing ADHD and executive dysfunction by deepening your understanding of yourself, increasing your self-acceptance, and helping you learn new skills and coping mechanisms.
Therapy by Stage of Motherhood
Journey to Motherhood
(Including Perinatal Disorders)Prepregnancy Decisions, Pregnancy, Infertility, and Miscarriage
New Moms and New Feelings
(Including Perinatal Disorders)Postpartum Depression and Postpartum Anxiety
Perinatal DisordersThe Middle Years of Motherhood
Parenting Challenges and Preventing Burnout
Seasoned Moms
College Age and Adult-Children, Caring For Aging Parents, Grieving the Death of A Parent
Frequently Asked Questions
Why should I see you online? Is it better to see a Therapist in person?
Research has shown online therapy to be comparable to in-person therapy. Both are effective treatments. Most of my clients like online therapy better than in person for the following reasons
1) Convenience
2) Flexibility
3) Easier access to specialists
4) Affordability (therapists can charge less when they have less overhead).
What other types of feelings do you see ADHD Mothers struggling with?
ADHD mothers are often hard on themselves and self-critical. They tend to struggle with feelings of guilt and shame. They are often on a quest to feel “good enough.” Some experience fear and worry that they know is excessive, but they can only rid themselves of these worries for short periods.. In therapy, I will help you with all of these feelings and more.
Can therapy help with my relationships?
Yes absolutely, when you feel better about yourself, your relationships will improve too. Better management of your symptoms will also help you and your partner get along better. Therapy helps your relationships, and helps your partner understand and empathize better. For example, You may feel like your partner does not understand the mental load you are carrying or see all of the” invisible” tasks and mental work you put into keeping your family running. Therapy can help with all of these issues.