{"id":37984,"date":"2024-12-05T17:58:19","date_gmt":"2024-12-05T17:58:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/?p=37984"},"modified":"2025-02-13T21:48:25","modified_gmt":"2025-02-13T21:48:25","slug":"balancing-family-joy-and-self-care-holiday","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/balancing-family-joy-and-self-care-holiday\/","title":{"rendered":"Balancing Family and Self-Care: Thoughts for Moms"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Self-Care and Family are difficult to balance, especially during the holidays.\u00a0 The holidays are sold to us as a time of joy, connection, and celebration.<\/strong> But for moms managing ADHD, anxiety, or the lingering effects of childhood trauma, the holidays often include stress, overwhelm, and upsetting feelings of disconnection. It\u2019s easy to feel like you\u2019re falling short of creating the holiday experience you desire for your family, <strong>especially when your own memories aren\u2019t filled with joy and stability.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Now that you are a mom, you yearn to create a different story,<\/strong> one with family holidays vastly<br \/>different than the ones you remember as a child. But the pressure to create \u201cthe perfect\u201d holiday can make you anxious and, in the end, disappointed. The exact opposite of what you wanted. I have been there. Sometimes, I still am, but I have learned a few things from my experience and the many mothers I have worked with who have been there too. <strong>This is for all the Moms who want to do better, be better and to FEEL better during this holiday season.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Let this year be the beginning of something good.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;10px||10px||true|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;2em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2>10 Ways You Can Feel Calm, Content, and In Control This Holiday Season<\/h2>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;27px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>1) Prioritize Your Feelings (and then the feelings of others you love too)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>To truly be there for others<\/strong> and feel connected to them, you need to first take care of yourself. By practicing accepting and caring for your feelings (yes,in the midst of a busy, emotionally charged holiday season), <strong>you will have more emotional room to be there for others who need you too.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_2,1_2&#8243; use_custom_gutter=&#8221;on&#8221; make_equal=&#8221;on&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; background_enable_image=&#8221;off&#8221; width=&#8221;100%&#8221; max_width=&#8221;2560px&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;-55px||-100px||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;-60px||-100px||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong>When we avoid, numb, and push down our feelings<\/strong>, it is like trying to hold a beach ball under water. One moment of inattention, and these feelings will pop up and surprise us as they splash us in the face.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, take time to let the feelings rise slowly. Be curious about them, care for them, and be kind to them. They need your attention and will give you important information about what you need. They want your support and understanding. <strong>This is why they pop up when you let your guard down, your feelings need to be seen, heard, and FELT.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/familybabyxmasblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;balance self care holidays.  family and baby with heads together on table at Christmas<br \/>\n&#8221; title_text=&#8221;familybabyxmasblog&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong>You don\u2019t need to resolve what has led to your feelings<\/strong>. There is just too much going on. You need more time to think and reflect than you have in the middle of a holiday gathering with the usual family shenanigans. Just acknowledge your feelings and let them know you support them. This can help you not \u201cact out\u201d in a way you are sorry about later. <strong>Don\u2019t question your feelings, just listen and assume they have a good point. They often have wisdom to share.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>2) Schedule Breaks to Check In with Yourself and the\u201dFeels\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Take time to experience your feelings between activities.<\/strong> To do this, you will need to schedule some downtime, even if it means saying no to something or someone. <strong>People-pleasing and perfectionism will lead you to overpack your schedule. Resist this urge.<\/strong> Doing more will not make you feel better. This is a trick your mind has played on you many times. Don\u2019t fall for it. Whatever feelings arise during these check-ins, accept them. Allow yourself to feel them without questioning or judgment. Simply allow your feelings to be there and not be criticized, minimized, or negated. <strong>Unfortunately, we even do this to ourselves. If you don\u2019t do it, your feelings will love you for it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/jewishfamilyblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;self-care balance holiday jewish family with menorah&#8221; title_text=&#8221;jewishfamilyblog&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;30px||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; inline_fonts=&#8221;Poppins&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>3). <span style=\"font-size: xx-large; font-family: Poppins;\">Practice Self-Compassion<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"flex max-w-full flex-col flex-grow\">\n<div data-message-author-role=\"assistant\" data-message-id=\"78f3f97c-c0cc-41ed-9ccc-c7886ef019d7\" dir=\"auto\" class=\"min-h-8 text-message flex w-full flex-col items-end gap-2 whitespace-normal break-words [.text-message+&amp;]:mt-5\" data-message-model-slug=\"gpt-4o\">\n<div class=\"flex w-full flex-col gap-1 empty:hidden first:pt-[3px]\">\n<div class=\"markdown prose w-full break-words dark:prose-invert light\">\n<p><strong>When practicing becoming more aware of your feelings, treat yourself how you would as your BEST self.<\/strong> When someone you love tells you about something difficult, you validate how tough things are for them.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_2,1_2&#8243; use_custom_gutter=&#8221;on&#8221; make_equal=&#8221;on&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; background_enable_image=&#8221;off&#8221; width=&#8221;100%&#8221; max_width=&#8221;2560px&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;-55px||-100px||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;-60px||-100px||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||0px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong>When you show yourself this same understanding, see it as self-care; don\u2019t view it as self-pity.<\/strong> You are not going to wallow or stay stuck in these feelings if you allow them to surface. Feelings that are acknowledged tend to pass more easily and quickly. <strong>If you listen to your feelings, they don\u2019t have to grow louder. If you don\u2019t resist them, they will not have to persist to be heard.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Showing compassion for yourself creates space for healing. This practice helps you connect more deeply with your own emotions, making it easier to connect with others in a meaningful way. <strong>This is how we begin to feel self-acceptance and belonging with others instead of feeling lonely and isolated.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.0&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px||true|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/fatherdaugherxmasblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;balance self-care holidays  Father and daughter laughing together sitting at a desk looking at a phone&#8221; title_text=&#8221;fatherdaugherxmasblog&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/allthreekidscookingblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;balance self-care holidays moms. 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Simplify<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>The holidays can stir up a desire to overcompensate\u2014especially if you didn\u2019t experience joyful or stable holiday seasons as a child.<\/strong> But remember, it\u2019s not the decorations, the gifts, or the food that you yearned for, and neither do others. It\u2019s feeling safe and connected that we all crave.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Picture Charlie Brown talking to Linus in the <em>Peanuts<\/em> Christmas special.<\/strong> You can feel his loneliness and his anticipation of the letdown he expects to feel. We all know the feeling. It\u2019s why we love Charlie Brown. He is us. This special is a classic because, in the end, ol\u2019 Chuck gets what he is looking for: feeling connected to his friends and to what he needs. <strong>He doesn\u2019t need perfection; he needs his friends and a sense of belonging.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/funnyfamilyxmasblog.jpg&#8221; title_text=&#8221;funnyfamilyxmasblog&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; background_enable_color=&#8221;off&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>5). Focus on the Meaningful Moments.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"flex max-w-full flex-col flex-grow\">\n<div data-message-author-role=\"assistant\" data-message-id=\"78f3f97c-c0cc-41ed-9ccc-c7886ef019d7\" dir=\"auto\" class=\"min-h-8 text-message flex w-full flex-col items-end gap-2 whitespace-normal break-words [.text-message+&amp;]:mt-5\" data-message-model-slug=\"gpt-4o\">\n<div class=\"flex w-full flex-col gap-1 empty:hidden first:pt-[3px]\">\n<div class=\"markdown prose w-full break-words dark:prose-invert light\">\n<p><strong>Think about what brings genuine joy to you and your family.<\/strong> Maybe it\u2019s decorating cookies together, watching holiday movies, or taking a quiet evening stroll to see Christmas lights. Keep it simple and savor it when it goes well. <strong>Pressure and hurry will steal the joy.<\/strong> There is nothing you need to prove. No one whose approval will fix things or make you feel worthy. Show yourself you are worthy by taking the time to enjoy the moments that are important to you.<strong> The holiday season will come around again next year, and you can do what you don\u2019t have time for this year.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_2,1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/xmasdessertblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;family self-care balance holidays.  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Couple dressed as mr and mrs Claus with dog in xmas costume too&#8221; title_text=&#8221;withdogxmasblog&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; background_enable_color=&#8221;off&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong>6) Plan with Flexibility<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Create a flexible schedule that includes only the highest priorities<\/strong> and then possible activities if there is more time. Involve your family in planning to ensure everyone\u2019s favorite activity is included and to increase others&#8217; enthusiasm for helping. Include older children, teens, grandparents, maybe even a \u201cmother\u2019s helper\u201d when preparing for each activity.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/jackxmasparadeblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;balance self-care holiday. little boy watching xmas parade&#8221; title_text=&#8221;SONY DSC&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong>7). Ask for Help<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Maybe the person who wishes for a particular activity can help with the planning and implementation.<\/strong> If they are too young, another capable person can be assigned a helping role. This will help promote turn-taking for the adults so the same parent or family member is not always burdened with implementing the plan.<\/p>\n<p>When thinking about an upcoming activity, imagine how you will respond when unexpected (or maybe very predictable) things come up. Try not to view how well an event goes as a statement of how well YOU did. A better barometer might be how well you handled yourself or used your sense of humor to de-escalate a situation or conflict.<\/p>\n<p>If a particular family member regularly lets you down when you ask for help, try to think of another strategy or another person to help. Are you familiar with the expression &#8220;don\u2019t go to the hardware store for milk&#8221;?<strong> If a person is not dependable, don\u2019t let wishful thinking keep you turning to them for help or emotional support.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/christmastreeblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;balance self-care holiday.  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If a particular family event is stressful for your child or your partner, let them know they can come talk to you if needed. Make a secret signal with your child (if they need support) or your partner (if you or they need support or a time-out) if you become too triggered. Let them know how they can support you if this occurs. Do you want them to go for a walk with you or take care of the kids while you take time for yourself? You can also set this kind of support system with a friend. <strong>Remember, you don\u2019t owe your family any explanation. If they ask, you get to choose what you want to say.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=&#8221;1_2,1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;1_2&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/familyeatingmealholidayblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;self-care ba;amce. holidays.  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If Uncle Ron is always late, you can make a guessing game out of predicting when he will arrive.<\/p>\n<p>I am not suggesting being mean or making fun of others in a hurtful manner. I would not use this strategy for young children or with others that can&#8217;t keep it light-hearted. <strong>I am suggesting you find a way to give less \u201cweight\u201d or importance to someone else\u2019s small (but annoying) actions.<\/strong> This can help our brain from getting too hooked by the emotion we feel in response to another person\u2019s behavior. <strong>With larger, more hurtful or impactful issues, make a plan for how you can care for yourself or others directly. We want to treat both our own and others\u2019 feelings with love and respect.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p><strong>9). Learn How to Say No to Family and Support your Partner When They Need to say No<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>This is such a big one and harder than it sounds.<\/strong> Make a plan for supporting each other when declining requests from family. If needed, you may need help from a therapist or counselor, particularly if this causes conflict between you and your partner or causes you significant distress.<\/p>\n<p>You can also practice what you are going to say in the mirror or with a friend. But the most important step is to give yourself permission to say no when necessary. After saying no, give yourself credit based on whether you followed your plan, NOT the other person\u2019s reaction.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I have noticed ADHD moms, anxious moms, and moms with childhood neglect and trauma all find it hard to ask for help, say no<\/strong>, <strong>and to know when to say when.<\/strong> Just because you are capable of doing ten different things doesn\u2019t mean it is best for you to do all of them. 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Think About Your Own Personal Do\u2019s and Dont\u2019s<\/strong><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"flex max-w-full flex-col flex-grow\">\n<div data-message-author-role=\"assistant\" data-message-id=\"78f3f97c-c0cc-41ed-9ccc-c7886ef019d7\" dir=\"auto\" class=\"min-h-8 text-message flex w-full flex-col items-end gap-2 whitespace-normal break-words [.text-message+&amp;]:mt-5\" data-message-model-slug=\"gpt-4o\">\n<div class=\"flex w-full flex-col gap-1 empty:hidden first:pt-[3px]\">\n<div class=\"markdown prose w-full break-words dark:prose-invert light\">\n<p><strong>There are many different emotional potholes to fall into during the holidays.<\/strong> Spend a few minutes thinking about yours and how you can keep yourself from falling in them and how to gracefully get out if you do. Most importantly, forgive yourself for mistakes.<strong> If you are able to forgive yourself for your mistakes and imperfections, it will be easier to forgive others too.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/germanxmasblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;self-care, balance, holiday.  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Stay Focused on the Process rather than the Outcome<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"flex max-w-full flex-col flex-grow\">\n<div data-message-author-role=\"assistant\" data-message-id=\"78f3f97c-c0cc-41ed-9ccc-c7886ef019d7\" dir=\"auto\" class=\"min-h-8 text-message flex w-full flex-col items-end gap-2 whitespace-normal break-words [.text-message+&amp;]:mt-5\" data-message-model-slug=\"gpt-4o\">\n<div class=\"flex w-full flex-col gap-1 empty:hidden first:pt-[3px]\">\n<div class=\"markdown prose w-full break-words dark:prose-invert light\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>For example, if you have a sensitive child who is likely to have a meltdown at a holiday event because of their sensory issues,<\/strong> your goal should focus on how best to handle the issue rather than focusing on the outcome (or others&#8217; wishes or opinions). This can be tough when everyone has an opinion, and you can feel their silent or not-so-silent judgment.<\/p>\n<p>Forcing your child to sit on Santa\u2019s lap because Grandpa is in the Santa suit and Grandma wants a picture is not the way to go if it conflicts with your values as a parent. Embarrassment degrades everyone\u2019s parenting skills. <strong>If you find yourself unable to stay true to yourself in these types of situations, this may be a good time to get support from a friend or a professional.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/drmargotholloman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Twasthenightblog.jpg&#8221; alt=&#8221;balance self-care holiday. three kids reading twos the night before christmas&#8221; title_text=&#8221;Twasthenightblog&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; max_height=&#8221;727px&#8221; max_height_tablet=&#8221;727px&#8221; max_height_phone=&#8221;727px&#8221; max_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;30px||30px||true|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||1em||true|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_font=&#8221;&#8211;et_global_body_font||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;29px&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;||||false|false&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Reading Twas The Night Before Christmas with the Mary candle lit on the right edge of the picture. \u00a0A Mary candle is an Irish tradition. \u00a0The candle in the window tells Mary and Joseph they are welcome to your &#8220;inn&#8221; on Christmas Eve.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; background_color=&#8221;#665384&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;0px|1em|3em|1em|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;0px|0px|0px|0px|true|true&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em|0px|0px|0px|false|true&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.4&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; header_text_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; header_4_text_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; header_6_font=&#8221;Poppins||||||||&#8221; header_6_text_color=&#8221;#444444&#8243; background_layout=&#8221;dark&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;1em||||false|false&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<h4>Final Thoughts<\/h4>\n<p>The holidays are an emotionally charged time, and for moms with ADHD, anxiety, or a history of childhood trauma, they can be even more overwhelming. By prioritizing your emotional well-being, practicing self-compassion, simplifying your plans, being flexible, and focusing on connection, you can create a holiday season that\u2019s meaningful, grounded, and filled with love.<\/p>\n<p>You deserve to feel calm and in control. With these small shifts, the support of a partner, friends, or even a therapist, you can start to build a holiday season that brings joy, connection, and healing for you and your family.<\/p>\n<p>Happy Holidays\u2014and remember, your own well-being is just as important as anyone else\u2019s. 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