Located in Cary, NC. I provide Online Therapy for moms in 42 + US States & Throughout NC, including Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, Charlotte, Greensboro, Winston-Salem, High Point, Asheville, and Wilmington.
Gain Emotional Clarity
I will give you tools so you can manage stress with confidence which means you’ll feel more balanced and in control no matter what life brings.
Rebuild Family Harmony
I provide support for family conflict resolution so you can improve communication and reduce tension which means your home will feel peaceful again.
Guidance That "Gets You"
I specialize in seasoned mothers so you will feel seen and heard. This means you’ll work with someone who truly understands your stage of life.
You’re Good at Taking Care of Others, But You’re Still Unsure About Taking Care of You
Which of these sound familiar?
You’ve spent years putting your family first, and now that your children have moved out—off to college, marriage, or their own lives—you’re left wondering, who am I now? You used to be “Mom” 24/7, but that role looks different these days, and you’re not sure what to do with the space it left behind.
You want to rekindle your relationship with your spouse—but they seem checked out. You’d love to make new friends, but don’t know where to begin. Hobbies? Interests? It’s hard to even remember what brings you joy. And even though you have more time, the motivation just isn’t there. After so many years caring for everyone else, you’re tired. You feel empty.
Now your aging parents need help. Your siblings either fight or disappear, and most days, it’s all on you. You’re burning the candle at both ends trying to keep everyone happy—but no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough. You’re stretched thin, physically and emotionally. And somewhere along the way, you stopped taking care of yourself.
You thought parenting would get easier—but the stakes just feel higher. When you try to help your adult kids, it backfires. You feel shut out, criticized, and hurt. They want your support but reject your advice. And still, you lie awake at night, worrying.
You babysit. You visit. You show up. But somehow, it’s never quite right. They only seem to call when they need something. Conversations feel tense. You’re constantly watching your words, hoping not to upset anyone. And even when you’ve given your all, you leave feeling unappreciated—like you’re walking on eggshells in your own family.
You know something has to change. You just don’t know where to start.
It’s Never Too Late to Heal Your Relationships
You always dreamed of being a mother and then a grandmother and having big, fun family gatherings, but now your son and daughter-in-law don’t seem very interested. Or maybe the new members of your family aren’t like you hoped, and you don’t know how to cope with all of the feelings this brings up. You worry about why it isn’t better, and you worry that YOU did something wrong. You feel like your friends are tired of hearing you talk about it, and you are feeling like a failure because their family relationships are so much better. Now you try to avoid thinking about it. You are starting to dread getting together with family because it feels inevitable that someone will end up feeling hurt and angry. You try to stop worrying so much about it but you can’t. It wakes you up in the middle of the night and then you feel tired and emotional all of the next day. You and your partner can’t even talk about it anymore. You want to but you feel like they don’t understand. One minute they act like you are overreacting and you just worry too much. Next, they are telling you everything you need to do different the next time. Sometimes they tell you to “just let go of it, keep your head down, your mouth shut, and everything will work out.” You just don’t know how long you can do this and you feel like you are losing parts of yourself in the process. You know this is not good at all for your relationships. Your kids are not as close to each other as you hoped they would be and you worry that it is because of something you did (or didn’t do). You know you are being “too sensitive,” but you just can’t stop feeling bad about it. You thought you were a good mother. Now you wonder if your children are coming to see you (and each other) out of obligation, and you’re worried there may be a day when they won’t want to come. This is not what you expected when you started a family, and it feels devastating. Sometimes, it just feels like the only way you know how to cope is to just go through the motions and try to numb your feelings but you know this isn’t an answer. You feel distracted at work and lonely, even in a crowd. Social media just makes it worse—seeing happy families only deepens the sadness. When people ask about your life, you don’t know what to say. It stings to see your grandchildren bond more with their other grandparents. You wonder what people would think if they knew the truth. Hearing friends talk about their close-knit families brings a wave of envy. You keep asking yourself, Where did I go wrong? But if you can’t fix it, what’s the point? Lately, even the things you used to enjoy feel flat. You swing between blaming yourself and trying to justify it all. Deep down, you just feel like you’ve failed as a mother |
You Deserve to Feel at Peace in Your Family Again
I know how painful it is to feel disconnected from the people you love most. You’ve spent your life showing up for your family—now you’re left questioning your role, your worth, and what comes next. It doesn’t have to stay this way.
With therapy, you’ll get the support and clarity you need to feel better. We’ll work together to help you navigate complex relationships—with a daughter-in-law, a parent, or even your own adult children—so you can stop walking on eggshells and start enjoying your life again.
As you begin to feel more confident and grounded in yourself, you’ll notice the shift. You’ll feel proud of the family you’ve raised, more connected to your partner, and more at ease when you talk to friends about your children and grandchildren. You’ll believe in your own worth again—not just as a mom, but as a whole person.
You can strengthen your relationships, even if there’s grief to work through or healing that needs to happen. Therapy helps rebuild that belief that you matter. Because when you take care of yourself, you’re not just helping you—you’re helping your whole family thrive.
You’re worth investing in. And your peace starts here.
Margot Holloman, PhD Licensed Psychologist
“With over 25 years of experience helping mothers navigate the emotional complexities of family life—and as someone in this stage of life myself—I deeply understand the challenges you’re facing. I’ve guided over 300 women through family tensions, parenting transitions, and personal growth, helping them find clarity, peace, and stronger relationships.”
“I believe that transitioning to parenting adult children is one of the hardest yet most important phases of motherhood. As children grow, the parent-child dynamic shifts, and mothers who adapt to their child’s evolving needs with understanding and openness create the strongest, most fulfilling relationships.
Make Your Life and Your Relationships Closer and More Meaningful
Reconnect with your Family
Guidance on parenting adult children so you feel more confident navigating tough conversations which means more connection, less conflict, and a greater sense of peace. Restore your relationship with your own partner or make new relationships so you can enjoy these new life experiences together. Get the most out of your relationship with your children and grandchildren.
Create a Calmer Home Life
Manage conflict with both close and extended family members in a way that is true to who you are and what is important to you. Support for you so you can stop walking on eggshells. This means better communication, fewer misunderstandings and more moments of real harmony.
Rediscover Your Voice
Build a meaningful and fulfilling life after your children leave for college or move out on their own. Claim your next chapter in life with more energy to fulfill your own wants and needs. Focus on self-growth and empowerment so you build emotional strength which means you’ll feel more grounded, fulfilled, and in control of your life again.
What Will Therapy Be Like?
I provide a supportive, nurturing atmosphere where you can feel safe. A comfortable place where you learn about yourself and others, explore your history(s), and learn how to take the steps you need to build or strengthen your relationships.
My therapy approach gives you the courage you need to change because it will help you learn how to be gentle with yourself and others, how to have self-compassion, and how to forgive yourself (and others) for past mistakes.
Therapy increases your ability to look at the parts of yourself that are hard to face and enables you to do the things you need to do to improve your family relationships.
My approach emphasizes the importance of a good relationship between the therapist and the client. As you experience the encouragement, warmth and support you need, you will feel empowered to practice new relationship skills and build more fulfilling relationships with others. I will also help you learn how to manage, limit, or stay out of unhealthy relationships that you can’t change and are making you miserable. Click Here for more information about me and my approach to therapy.
How It Works – No Matter Where You’re Starting
Whether it’s your first time in therapy or you’ve been before, I make the process easy and comfortable so you can start feeling better, fast.
The Relationship Renewal Plan
Step 1: Schedule a Free Consultation
Gain clarity and reassurance by discussing your concerns in a no-pressure call, so you can feel confident about taking the next step toward support.
Step 2: Start Therapy & Feel Supported
Therapy isn’t just about coping—it’s about regaining control over your emotions, reducing daily stress, and building resilience for a more fulfilling life.
Step 3: Create Lasting Change
True healing means not just managing stress but actually feeling joy, confidence, and connection again in your relationships and daily life.
Therapy for Overwhelmed Moms Managing ADHD: You Can Find Balance and Peace
Healing for Moms Who Grew Up In a Dysfunctional Family
Support and Healing for Grief and Loss in All Stages of Motherhood
Find Calm: Therapy for Moms Struggling with Anxiety
Journey to Motherhood: Unexpected Challenges with pregnancy, infertility, and Miscarriage
New Moms: Postpartum Depression and postpartum Anxiety
The Middle Years: Parenting, Depression, and Preventing Burnout
Seasoned Mothers: Empty Nests and Parent-Child Relationships
Frequently Asked Questions
My Children are headed for college and I am taking care of my mother with Alzheimers. How do I cope with so many losses without feeling like I am drowning in grief?
This can be such a challenge. You are "sandwiched" between caring for two generations at the same time. No wonder you are feeling overwhelmed and sad. This time of life can be full of opportunity, but it is also sprinkled with so many losses. You are grieving the loss of a parent even before their death. Women often come to see me because they are struggling to cope with all of the feelings that are a part of this time of life. I can help you work through the grief, and I can also help you build new sources of inspiration and support. This is a time of life that can be very rich and fulfilling. Let's work together so we can make it that way for you.
My daughter-in-law is so fussy about what I do when I am with her children. Does she think I don’t know anything? Why doesn’t she trust me?
In-law relationships are often filled with frustration, hurt, and misunderstanding. We often sincerely don’t know what the other person wants from us. Sometimes what they ask for can feel insulting. Your daughter-in-law may be more particular than you would like and she might do things very differently than you did when you were a young mother. Often this feels like criticism and breeds feelings of competition between different generations of mothers. She may be anxious about being a good mother and this makes her want to do just the right thing as a mom. She may not think about if she should or shouldn’t ask for you to do things the same way she does.
This type of problem is a great reason to come to therapy. Therapy can help you to better understand others and their feelings/motivations. It teaches us how to effectively communicate (if and when possible). It can also help us determine when it is best to accept that another person or situation isn’t likely to change. You may need support to grieve that she is not who you hoped she would be. Therapy should be a safe supportive place for you to talk through your feelings so you can make the best decision about what to do for both you and your family. It can also help you feel better despite not having the power to change the other person and when you cannot change the situation.
How can I revive my relationship with my partner now that the children are out on their own?
This is going to vary quite a bit from couple to couple; however, all couples are likely to benefit from learning something new together. Pick something new to you both that you think you might enjoy. Try to be open to things like you were in the beginning of the relationship. Enjoying new things together feels great and often breathes new life into relationships. If there are other issues that need to be addressed, individual therapy can help you learn what you personally can do to improve your relationship. This often leads to change in the other person and the relationship.
How can I stop worrying about my Adult Children? Should I still be involved in their decisions?
I am not sure if we ever stop worrying about our children, but therapy can help us determine if we are engaging in productive thought or simply torturing ourselves with “what ifs” and things we cannot predict or control. It can be very difficult to decide when we should offer our opinions to our kids. Unless it is life-threatening, for the most part, it is probably best to offer our opinion to our adult children only when we are asked. Therapy can help us learn how to do this in a way that is comfortable for us and is received well by our child.