THERAPY FOr childhood trauma and dysfunctional families IN CARY NC.
Heal Grow and Thrive as the Mom You Want to Be
Discover Your strength through therapy
Heal your past, Create Happiness and Serenity For Your Future
You are concerned about becoming a parent, or you are already a mom, and you are worried you will repeat patterns from your past with your children. Maybe you feel like you already are, at least in some ways. You want to be a very different mother than yours. But you are wondering if your past is still too much a part of you. You know how you want to be as a partner and a mother, but sometimes, it feels just out of reach. You aren’t sure if you are making it different and good… enough.
You Want A Different Life For Your Children Than Your Childhood
You go long periods thinking your childhood is safely in the past until one day, it seems to rise and show you it is still there, impacting your feelings about yourself, your relationships, and your work.
Sometimes, you are triggered by something, and you know your feelings are bigger than what happened, but you don’t know what to do about it. Your emotional reactions can surprise you, and you wonder where did that come from? Sometimes, you have trouble controlling your emotions and worry you aren’t controlling them well enough.
You hate when others notice things that you thought you were successfully masking. You thought you were pretty good at hiding when you don’t feel confident, but somebody says something that makes you feel vulnerable and exposed.
You might feel anxious and down at times without really knowing why. You are doing well in life in so many ways. Most of the time, you feel proud of how far you have come. From the outside, things look good, but you need to prove yourself. You can get worked up getting ready for things even when you tell yourself you aren’t going to worry about it. Sometimes, you feel like an imposter, so you work extra hard to ensure everything is perfect.
You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.
C.S. Lewis
Meet Motherhood with Patience, Gentleness, and Joy
I will be with you each step of the way. I can help you work through childhood issues, self-esteem issues, and all of the negative thoughts and feelings keeping you stuck.
You need someone who understands what your life has been like. It doesn’t matter if the problem in your childhood was an immature, self-centered parent, alcohol or drug abuse, constant criticism, financial instability, or chronic medical or mental illness in a parent or sibling. You can heal so it doesn’t control your life anymore.
I will help you work through your feelings until they aren’t so scary and don’t have the power they once had. You will understand how your past has impacted you and how to keep it from negatively affecting your future.
Together, we will stop the cycle of intergenerational trauma. I will help you NOT hand down these feelings to the next generation. Through therapy, you can learn how to build strong, healthy relationships with your partner and children.
Therapy with me will help you be more comfortable opening up about parts of yourself and your past that may be hard to look at. Clients feel comfortable telling me things they have never shared with anyone. If you have had painful experiences in life that are holding you back, I can help you take your life back.
My approach will focus on developing the parenting and relationship skills you need to create the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
We will achieve this goal by helping you understand yourself, your childhood, and what is getting in the way of you being the partner and the parent you WANT to be.
You will learn new parenting skills and increase your ability to use the parenting skills you ALREADY have effectively and consistently.
I can help you feel better about yourself, your work, and your relationships with friends.
It Is Possible to Break Free From Your Past and Create The Future You Want
Therapy to Heal Childhood Trauma and Neglect will Help You Feel More Confident and Worthy
Therapy for Childhood Trauma and Neglect will Help YOU:
- Identify the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are getting in your way of being the woman and the mom you want to be.
- Learn how to unhook from thoughts that aren’t helpful, stop being overwhelmed by your feelings, and stop doing things that don’t help your situation or make you feel better. Things that, in the long run, make you feel worse.
- Heal from the past so you can make decisions based on what is best for you and your family instead of being led by unhealed wounds from your past.
- Learn how to care for yourself and your needs (we are not talking bubble baths) so you have the enthusiasm and energy to care for your family.
- Learn to be true to yourself and believe in yourself and what YOU think without self-doubt or comparing yourself to others.
- Increase your resilience and your life management skills so you have the tools and the coping skills to feel confident about being able to handle what the future might bring.
- Learn how to feel and be your best self.
Frequently Asked Questions about Therapy for Childhood Trauma and Neglect in Cary, NC.
Q: I have been through some therapy before; how do I know this will help?
: I suggest you sign up for a consultation, meet me, and see if it feels like a good fit. I will want to know what therapy has been like for you in the past so I can use strategies similar to what has been helpful for you and not use approaches that were not helpful or you didn’t like in the past.
I haven’t been to therapy before, and I am scared of what it may be like.
It is expected to feel nervous before trying something new, especially as personal as counseling or therapy. It is normal to feel vulnerable and a little scared. I suggest taking things one step at a time. Read the FAQ page on my website. It will tell you step by step what will happen next. Ask any questions and voice any concerns you have along the way.
How long will this take? I am worried this isn’t something I can fix.
It is difficult to predict precisely how long it will take for you to reach your goals. I can usually give you my initial thoughts about this after we talk, and I know what you would like to get from therapy. You will be the one in the driver’s seat, though. You will decide when you think you have met your goals and how long you remain in therapy. Many people worry their issues cannot be fixed. I have yet to find anyone who is willing and ready to work on themselves and who does not get significant benefits from coming to therapy.
I can relate to these things, but my childhood wasn’t that bad. Can you still help me?
Absolutely, there is a wide range of childhood experiences that can continue to have an impact on us in adulthood. I can help you if these experiences were few or many, light or very significant.
Trauma Specialties
Pre Pregnancy and Pregnancy Traumas Including:
- Miscarriage
- Mid to Late Term Pregnancy Loss
- Infertility Challenges
- Pregnancy Complications
If these sound like you, please take a look at the Journey to Motherhood Page.
Postpartum Traumas Including:
- Breastfeeding Issues
- Medical Issues for the Baby or Mom
- Traumatic Birth
If these sound like you, please take a look at the New Moms: Postpartum Depression and Anxiety Page.
If you are concerned about how childhood trauma or growing up in a dysfunctional family is impacting your parenting or causing depression or symptoms of burnout, please see my Middle Motherhood Page.
If you are also experiencing empty nest, parent-child relationship issues, or you are caring for an aging or dying parent, see my Seasoned Mothers Page.
If you also have difficulty with anxiety or ADHD, please see my Anxiety Specialty Page and my ADHD Specialty Page.